August 10, 2022 / M.S
Use this quick exercise to better understand your feelings towards relationships and marriage
One of the pillars of Met at Chabad Marriage Theory is mindfulness. It is crucial when approaching the “dating scene” to be aware of your current views and feelings on relationships and marriage. If you don’t know where you stand, it is nigh impossible to grow and appreciate a fresh perspective on anything, not to mention something as meaningful and complex as marriage.
So we created this exercise to help you understand your own views and feelings on marriage.
Here are some questions for you to ask yourself before embarking on your journey to find your other half.
(There are no right answers. Just try to understand how you feel about each statement.)
On a scale of 1-10, how accurately do the following statements describe your views?
“I know I will be ready to marry when…”
…I have a healthy balance between my personal life and social life.
…I am in love with the idea of marriage.
…My partner and I fully understand where each other is coming from.
…I am financially stable enough to support a family.
…I feel comfortable sharing with my partner the parts of myself that are "not pretty".
…My partner and I are comfortable being silly or playful with one another.
“I know I will not be ready to marry until…”
…My partner’s family trusts me.
…I have had enough experience being single.
…I stop dwelling on past relationships.
…I have had a long-lasting relationship with my partner.
…My partner and I have discussed the potential of children together.
…I can tell my partner why I'm having a bad day.
Take note of your answers (literally, write them down,) and use them to further understand your current relationship with the idea of marriage, and appreciate the areas that may need improvement or adjustment.
Click the link below for further insight into Jewish wisdom on marriage.